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You can’t change people…but you can change yourself! 

You know, I always wonder why they don’t teach this shit in school.  This concept is grasped by many, and not by most.  We can’t fucking change people, HELLO?! So quit crying about the same person that’s doing the same shit to you that you keep taking all these years.  They’re not gonna learn from your crying.  They’re probably not gonna care, and even if they do care, most likely, they’ll probably repeat the same shit they’ve done to you to hurt you again.  They won’t change until THEY decide to, not because you want them to.  And you should forgive them anyway, because if they knew any better, they would be better, right? 

The most important, most influential thing you can do for this world, is be the best YOU can be.  Be who you wish other people would be.  Be who you wish you could be.  You can’t expect other people to change if you’re not what you expect of other people either.  And if you are being the best person you can be, GOOD.  Because eventually, that will rub off on everyone around you too.  Eventually, people will notice and then they might start to want to change too.  Get it?  We can’t change other people, but changing ourselves for the better might just have a ripple effect and help the world change for the better too.  Keep shining guys.  Peace out. ✌️ 

The time is NOW

Is there something you’ve been holding back from doing in your life because “it’s not the right time yet”.  Is there a goal you would like to achieve , but just- not yet?  Are you hoping to one day “be there”, wherever “there”,may be?  Do you want to one day, “just be happy”? 

These are all common things we do and say as humans that should really not be so common, and I’m sure you’ve either said or heard all of the above, and in a million different ways too!  But what are these blocks, really?  These blocks, are just that.  Blocks.  Excuses.  A reason you’ve made up in your mind due to fears, insecurities, doubts, etc. that are keeping you from living the life you want to live.  Don’t worry, we ALL do it.  The point it, realizing that life is short, and if you want something, why not do it now?  What’s stopping you?   Either way, the worst that can happen is that you’ll be right where you started.  Wouldn’t you rather try, then sit right there where you are, anyway?

I talk to people everyday who make these excuses, and once we figure out their blocks, well that’s just the first step to a life time change!! The first step is realizing your blocks, and the next step is working on removing them.  But you have to make the decision to start, today! 

Ask yourself…are you living the life that you want to live?  Are you doing all the things you’ve always wanted to do? Are you waking up every morning ecstatic to be alive?  If you’re not, my question to you is, what are you waiting for?  If you want to do something, why not do it now? If you want to be something, why not be it now?  Life is short and full of surprises.  You never know when your last day may be.  So, why not change your life, today? 

What are some of the blocks you’ve had in your life and what did you do to overcome them?  

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What’s it to you, what I look like?!

I’ve never been overweight, like never. Yet I’ve always felt like I was …since a little girl.  I always thought I was fat and if you looked at pictures of me as a child, I was this lanky long armed, long-legged girl, with a soft tummy, but not even close to even being chubby! Yet, when puberty hit I was so ashamed of my body. I thought I was big when I wasn’t. Puberty is awkward after all, butvwhy yhe hell did I think I was fat? Where did this idea come from and why did they  bring it with me as an adult?  I honestly have never wondered where it came from until now….my psychoanalytical self has finally come out to psychanalyze myself, ha.  

Sure, I have had and still have some  people in my life that don’t help with their comments when it comes to weight. But really, would it bother you if someone said you gained weight when you know you didn’t?  For some people, probably not.  For me–yeah, it’s one of my touchy subjects.   It bothered me, to the point where I would cry…yes CRY…even up until a few weeks ago when my uncle told me I gained weight when I didnt, I got annoyed and cried.  I’ve been dealing with my uncle saying nonsense stuff like that my whole life.  And it upset me.  Anyone saying anything about me being bigger would upset me.  Why? Because I’ve always thought I was fat.  Inferiority.  As if my body didn’t amount to what everyone expected it to be. As if I wasn’t enough.  And maybe these thoughts attracted things like people commenting on my weight.  I don’t know.  But what I do know is that thinking these thoughts have kept me in a place I don’t want to be, and that’s why I chose to change my thoughts about my self.  It’s called self love…the me project.  It’s a work in progress, but I’m getting there. It’s a process that I have tried  keep reminding myself to do.  But I’m doing it.  Now, the last time I saw my uncle, he asked me if I gained weight because he saw my love handles, that I HAVE ALWAYS had.  I not only said no, I didn’t because I hadn’t gained a pound anyway. But the important thing I said is this: what does it matter to him what I look like or how much I weigh anyway? Why is that so important?  That it’s the least important thing about me.  That I’m tired of people saying stupid stuff like that to me.  And you know what?  It felt good to let that out.  And I think it made him think a little.  Because he was totally kissing my ass afterwards, lol. 

Gym selfies are not just for narcissist but also for self love advocates….next time maybe I’ll crack a smile :). Love yourself as you are

And so, I’ve made a decision …today, I am learning more about me and who I am.   I’m accepting myself as I am.  I am more than enough. I’m learning to accept everything about me, no matter what you say or think about me. To not care if you think I’ve gained a pound or two if I haven’t. Or even if I have. That is not of anyone’s concern but my own. Especially when I am at a healthy weight so it shouldn’t be a concern at all.  I’m fine.  I’m healthy.  I’m not dying.  I am living and living damn good.  Real good.
So after thinking….I now know where this nonsense about me being fat came from…my mamma. And even my dad. They weren’t big people, but they both struggled with weight issues, and I saw that as a young child and thought it was normal to think like this. It was normal to want to lose weight, and then get on the scale and get depressed that you haven’t lost any weight, then go eat or drink junk food because your upset about it.  That’s what I saw growing up.  It wasn’t normal. It isn’t normal to obsess about your weight. That blocks you from actually living life to the fullest.  I’m allowing more space in my life by learning to accept myself as I am.   Fuck it. Self love is the besttttt loveee.
Who’s with me?  Anyone relate?